November 4th, 2011
|pilgrimkitty||12:34 am - Rules Post and FAQ|
Welcome to the Glee BDSM fanworks community! This is a place for all fanfiction, fanart, and fanvideos involving Glee characters engaging in BDSM lifestyle and activities. First, lets have a few rules.
1) No kink-shaming, character bashing, or poster bashing. Please respect everyone's right to their own opinions, kinks, squicks and triggers. You don't have to agree with everyone, or like what everyone else likes, but tearing people down for what they think or like will NOT be tolerated. Follow the golden rule, and we should get along well. Trolling, wank, wank-baiting, bashing, and shaming of any type will not be tolerated.
2) No RPF. Especially given the nature of this community, RPF walks a fine line between fiction and libel. It's best to just avoid it.
3) All posts must be labeled and tagged. The subject line of your post needs to be labeled with the type of fanwork, a title, and a rating. Every fanfiction needs a header with title, author, rating, kinks and triggers, a brief summary, and a disclaimer. All explicit art must be behind a cut, and if your graphic is big, please put that behind a cut as well. Spoilers, and the body of a fanfiction must be behind a cut as well.
Q) What exactly is BDSM?
BDSM, or BDDSSM stands for Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, and Sadism and Masochism. The application of any of these aspects into your everyday life and your sexual life can be considered part of BDSM. BDSM runs a large gamut of activities, and can involve something as simple as having sex while your hands are bound, or as complicated as 24/7 Master/Slave lifestyle.
Q) What is "play"?
A) partaking in BDSM is often referred to as "play." Different activities often have the word "play" tacked on at the end, such as "petplay," where one person acts like a pet while the other acts like a Master, "painplay," combining physical pain with sexual or sensual acts, "waxplay," where one partner pours melted candlewax on the other, etc.. There are many kinds of play. When you're engaging in play, it's referred to as being in a "scene." Some people prefer to keep their BDSM limited to occasional scenes, while others engage in 24/7 lifestyle. No two couples or groups are the same.
Q) BDSM, that's like whips and chains, right?
A) Not exactly. While whips and chains are a part of it, BDSM is much bigger and more encompassing than that. And it's not always inherently sexual. There is a lot of pleasure and contentment that can be found in engaging in BDSM in nonsexual situations.
At it's core, BDSM is about trust. A submissive trusts a dominant to take care of them and not hurt them. A masochist trusts a sadist to not take them past what their body can actually handle. When two or more people enter into a BDSM relationship, they usually come up with a set of rules. Sometimes the rules are merely spoken aloud, and sometimes a formal contract is written. Everyone involved needs to be able to trust that everyone else involved is going to follow the rules. Beyond that, everyone needs to trust themselves to know when to stop. From the outside, BDSM looks like it's all about sex and pain. But from the inside, BDSM is about trust, respect, and love.
Q) What is TPE?
A) TPE stands for Total Power Exchange. Often interchanged with the expression "24/7." Two people involved in TPE are always in their "role,? such as Master/Slave, Master/Pet, Daddy/Baby, etc.. The only time they leave their roles behind is for designated periods, and if somebody safewords. A couple involved in TPE usually have contract written up explaining the rules and covenants between them. The relationship is usually marked by an object or piece of jewelry, like a collar or a tag or a leash or a bracelet.
Q) What is SSC?
A) SSC stands for "Safe, Sane and Consensual." BDSM play is play. It is not, on it's own power, rape or abuse. "Safe, Sane and Consensual" is a personal mantra for many BDSM participants. It involves things like setting up safewords, doing research before playing, and not doing anything that can cause real or lasting damage to yourself or partner(s). SSC includes knowing when to stop, understanding your partner and akl of their nonverbal cues, being prepared before you begin, and not taking anything for granted.
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